7 Keys To Healthy Communication

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How do we communicate well when we disagree or there is conflict?

1. The goal is not to agree on everything or to convince them of your point of view

  • Differences challenge us, sharpen us, and cause us to critically think

  • Differences are beautiful. That is what attracts us to other people.

2. Practice blame-free communication

  • Own you and your triggers

  • Use the following statement to communicate when triggered:

    “I feel because and I need

3. Reflect back to your partner the situation as you see and understand it

  • Realize that there might be more to the story

4. Practice active listening

  • Listen first, speak second

  • Be open to a different perspective

  • Try empathizing when your partner is sharing their heart or perspective

5. Ask your partner intentional questions that give them permission to express their needs

  • What do you need from me right now?

  • How can I show you love today?

  • What can I give you?

6. Fight for connection

  • Choose to stay in the conversation instead of run away

  • Choose humility over being right

  • Remind your partner that you choose them even in conflict and you are committed to them

7. Push pause to reconnect when conflict causes disconnection

  • Dance to “your” song

  • Tell your partner what you love about them

  • Retell your love story

Lisa KunzcommunicationComment